Meet Yjasming
Professional Life Coach & Certified ADHD Life Coach
Hi, I'm Yjasming! I'm a wife and mother of two daughters and live in Charlotte, North Carolina. As much as I love the Carolinas, I'm still a Texan at heart. Let me share a little of my story and why I became an ADHD Life Coach.
The Years Before I Had a Name for It
Both as an adolescent and a young woman, I always knew there was something a little different about me. I could never quite figure out what it was — why I so often "missed the memo." I was a daydreamer, highly sensitive, and at times I struggled to socially connect with my peers. Despite my issues with focus and reading comprehension, I was an A/B student and very self-motivated. So surely I couldn't have ADHD... right?
I learned to mask my internal chatter and my struggles through perfectionism, keeping up a "good girl" appearance. I put on the façade of having it all together, even making decent grades throughout high school and college. But underneath, the unchecked and untreated symptoms of ADHD led to poor decision-making, impulsivity, and real struggle in my personal life.
Motherhood, the Pandemic, and the Turning Point
As I entered motherhood and the responsibilities of family life grew, I found myself floundering. Anxiety and overwhelm reared their heads again. Then came the pandemic. I'd never wish to relive those first weeks and months of the lockdown, but I'm grateful for what surfaced. That unwelcomed forced pause gave my family a rare chance to slow down. And through that reckoning, our suspicions were confirmed: both of our daughters had ADHD.
I threw myself into learning everything I could about ADHD — books, podcasts, newsletters, channels. And it was in that search, while trying to support my girls, that I had my own "aha moment": I have ADHD too!
I've since learned this is a shared experience among so many moms of kids with ADHD. For the first time, I felt completely understood, validated, and seen. I wasn't crazy. I wasn't dumb. I didn't have a brain tumor or early-onset Alzheimer's (a genuine fear I'd entertained). I had ADHD.